Alexandra's Story for National Honesty Day

Today is National Honesty Day!

Right now, there are over 500,000 people in the UK living with Crohn’s and Colitis, the two main forms of Inflammatory Bowel Disease. The symptoms can be debilitating and include stomach pain, blood in your poo, fatigue and needing to go for a poo urgently and often, including during the night.

The warning signs of Crohn’s and Colitis are widely misunderstood and, frankly, embarrassing for many. It may be tempting to ignore them: after all nobody likes talking about their bowels!

In the run up to National Honesty Day, we’ll be sharing blogs co-written with some of our wonderful supporters, who themselves have struggled to be open about their Inflammatory Bowel Diseases in the past. The first is from Alexandra.

We spoke to Alexandra about her journey towards being more accepting of her condition and how she’s helping to break the taboo.


I'm 22 years old and have been living with Ulcerative Colitis since I was diagnosed when I was 16. I absolutely love anything crafty such as, cross stitch, embroidery, resin crafts and candle making! I also enjoy reading, music and exploring new places when I can. I especially enjoy experiencing live music and hope to attend many more gigs and concerts in the future!


When I first started showing symptoms of having an Inflammatory Bowel Disease, I felt like no one would want to hear about what I was going through. I was also afraid of talking to the doctors about what I was experiencing because as a young woman, I felt embarrassed that another person would be hearing about what was happening each time I rushed to the bathroom!

I felt embarrassed to talk to friends and family about how I found myself rushing to the toilet most days, that I was worried about leaving the house in case I needed to use the bathroom, and that I found was lacking the energy to go out and do my usual daily tasks.


Alexandra
Person Living with Ulcerative Colitis


Before I was diagnosed with my IBD, Ulcerative Colitis, I would limit my social interactions in fear of needing to rush of to the toilet and feeling embarrassed. I was worried people would be counting how many times I excused myself in their heads, and make judgements about me. I would find other excuses as to why I wasn’t feeling well because I was too embarrassed to say I couldn’t leave my bathroom that day.

I would very often cancel plans due to my IBD symptoms, I found trying to explain why I wasn’t feeling well to friends and family was very difficult.


When I eventually opened up to my family about what I was experiencing, I received nothing but support. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted, and this secret I had been carrying around with me for so long didn’t feel like such a heavy burden anymore. When I spoke to my doctors about my symptoms, they were also very supportive.

Nobody made me feel embarrassed but helped me to understand I was not alone in my condition, and there were ways I could treat and help manage my symptoms.


To anyone who is currently hiding or embarrassed about symptoms they are experiencing, you are not alone! Your health is so important and being able to have a conversation with your doctor, a friend or family member that you can trust, can be such a relief. There is a community of people out there who understand what your going through, and are willing to offer support if you need it.

If you feel too embarrassed to sit down and talk with a health professional, I found it really useful to write down what it was I wanted to say, and if you find you just cant get the words out, handing over that piece of paper can be a much easier way to start having these conversations.

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We hear from people every day who rely on the Crohn’s and Colitis community for help and support. Sharing your experience can be helpful and inspiring.


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We know it can be difficult to live with, or support someone living with these conditions. But you’re not alone. We provide up-to-date, evidence-based information and can support you to live well with Crohn’s or Colitis.

Our helpline team can help by:

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